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"I think I want a divorce but I'm afraid of what that will mean for me (and my children.) How do I know where to begin?"

The life-saving nature of support group - emotional, legal and financial support, before, during and after divorce.

Going through – or contemplating – divorce?  - Or perhaps you’re done with the legal part but still feel anything but “done” with the process.  A support group can really help by giving you the emotional space to discern what you want, and by providing practical tools in the form of information.  How?  Because information is power!  I hear so many women say they are too afraid to move forward because of the uncertainty of what will happen.  That’s right, without information and support, uncertainty will prevail and you will likely stall in your desire to move out of an unhappy marriage. 

Divorce is a huge leap for many, and making the decision is difficult and emotional, usually fraught with fear.  But with emotional support from others, and legal and financial guidance, you will find you can free yourself from that unhappy place and move forward.   Connection to yourself and others; discerning what you really want and how to get there; learning to trust yourself to know what is right for you – are all elements of group work.  Sometimes our beliefs hold us back for years from what we want for ourselves, as does fear. 

 Spiritually, too, it’s important to turn inward for your own answers about what is right for you.  Whatever you decide, from that place of inner wisdom, you can learn tools to manage your emotions, soothe your fears and create the life you desire.

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So, if divorce is something you think you want, but you don’t know how to get there, join other like-minded women in a group setting.  If you’re thinking about it, but are not sure, join group as an way to discern what you really want.  If you’ve gone through a divorce but emotionally are still struggling with the new reality, group can help you too.  By becoming the CEO of your own process, and tapping into your ability to create a new, fulfilling life, you will find yourself moving forward in a gentler way.

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